oki so im back sooner then i thought! LOL. but i have figured out something so i wana share it here! the funny thing is.. maybe i should be giving this advise to myself! as im proly the one that needs it most.
Being in a long distance relationship is about as fun as a punch in the crotch! - ask me .. ive had the punch LOL.. so whoever started this rumor has it spot on! People very rarely elect to be in a long distance relationship,hereafter referred to as the LDR. They usualy fall into them accidentally, after they meet someone wonderful who lives on the other side of the world/country/universe. Or they're very happily ensconced in a SDR and then some idiot goes and gets a fancy promotion and has to move to the other side of the world. Either way its unsavoury way to conduct a romance. or is it? haha YES it is =) sorry to lead you on but as with anything, there is always a positive side to it... if you look closely..(try squinting and using a magnifying glass)
first lets get al the whinning out of the way.
now technology is proly the only thing keeping you together.. even if you both call/text/email each other 728 times a day, its still possible to find yourself having a slight disconnect, especially with the different time zones. The bonding found in a long-in-bed chat and cuddles has no virtual parallel
you will also miss "stuff" like special occasions and times-of-need.It becomes frustrating. You may even start to feel like you're living a single persons life, despite being totes in love.
abit of advice.. the only thing gona keep you bonded it the little things in life.. remember love letters?and care packages? theres something thoughtful and loving about taking the time to send little msgs and gifts to your beloved.. it might just make both your day.
use it as an opportunity to fall in love again.. ive always maintained that the brains fall in love.. and brains are usualy clever enough to maintain it.. even when the corresponding body is deprived. however sometimes the brain needs help in the shape of a daily email,long phone or skype chats.. and "just thinking of you" texts that keep your lover invloved in your life, even when you're not there. when the physical is denied, you must put more energy into the mental and emotional.
when you do get to spend time together.. dont plan a frillion plans.. just be with each other.. its crucial to rebond so that you can last the next patch of not-togetherness.. which by the way should be short as humanly and financially possible.
And if you dont 100% believe in you LDR? if it feels too torturous and not-worth-it and you eventually find yourself wondering why you're even bothering? maybe its not worth it.LDR's are often sited as the ultimate relationship test, and if youve done all you can to keep the magic alive despite the distance but it stil feels hard, maybe you need to reconsider.. Or alternatively ,packing your bags and moving to lighting ridge to be his opal-mining sidekick ha ha ha! As if! we all know opals are made up, jus like unicorns and enjoyable spin classes ;)
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