oki so im back sooner then i thought! LOL. but i have figured out something so i wana share it here! the funny thing is.. maybe i should be giving this advise to myself! as im proly the one that needs it most.
Being in a long distance relationship is about as fun as a punch in the crotch! - ask me .. ive had the punch LOL.. so whoever started this rumor has it spot on! People very rarely elect to be in a long distance relationship,hereafter referred to as the LDR. They usualy fall into them accidentally, after they meet someone wonderful who lives on the other side of the world/country/universe. Or they're very happily ensconced in a SDR and then some idiot goes and gets a fancy promotion and has to move to the other side of the world. Either way its unsavoury way to conduct a romance. or is it? haha YES it is =) sorry to lead you on but as with anything, there is always a positive side to it... if you look closely..(try squinting and using a magnifying glass)
first lets get al the whinning out of the way.
now technology is proly the only thing keeping you together.. even if you both call/text/email each other 728 times a day, its still possible to find yourself having a slight disconnect, especially with the different time zones. The bonding found in a long-in-bed chat and cuddles has no virtual parallel
you will also miss "stuff" like special occasions and times-of-need.It becomes frustrating. You may even start to feel like you're living a single persons life, despite being totes in love.
abit of advice.. the only thing gona keep you bonded it the little things in life.. remember love letters?and care packages? theres something thoughtful and loving about taking the time to send little msgs and gifts to your beloved.. it might just make both your day.
use it as an opportunity to fall in love again.. ive always maintained that the brains fall in love.. and brains are usualy clever enough to maintain it.. even when the corresponding body is deprived. however sometimes the brain needs help in the shape of a daily email,long phone or skype chats.. and "just thinking of you" texts that keep your lover invloved in your life, even when you're not there. when the physical is denied, you must put more energy into the mental and emotional.
when you do get to spend time together.. dont plan a frillion plans.. just be with each other.. its crucial to rebond so that you can last the next patch of not-togetherness.. which by the way should be short as humanly and financially possible.
And if you dont 100% believe in you LDR? if it feels too torturous and not-worth-it and you eventually find yourself wondering why you're even bothering? maybe its not worth it.LDR's are often sited as the ultimate relationship test, and if youve done all you can to keep the magic alive despite the distance but it stil feels hard, maybe you need to reconsider.. Or alternatively ,packing your bags and moving to lighting ridge to be his opal-mining sidekick ha ha ha! As if! we all know opals are made up, jus like unicorns and enjoyable spin classes ;)
xx
Tuesday, 8 March 2011
Saturday, 5 March 2011
haha finally found a place to vent.. not to public.. but perfect for my 2011 diary entries!! i can bitch and carry on complaining.. with soo much rooom wooooooooohh =)
keep watching guys! once a wk i shall be updating my diary entries a insight on my feelings thoughts and events for the week! =)
here it goes..
despite such a dramatic and sad beginning, my life has been a positve one so far. i credit my mother for that. She wrapped me in a blanket of love and endeavoured to make my life as 'normal' as possible, one that wasnt clouded with sadness even though she went through some really tough times. As happy as ive been, the loss of a parent in your life can be so virceral at times. Il see a father reach out with a protective hand for his daughter and it would feel like someone stabbed a knife in my side. when a friend tells me her dad helped her file her taxes, out of nowhere comes a flash of envy or jealousy.
Over the years, I have learnt how to push the feelings down swiftly,but, like everything you try and run away from they always catchup with you. Recently all emotions associated withh= this have come back to surface. Im not sure if i can attribute this to a rough time ive had the past 12 months or that fact that what cant kill you can only make you stronger, But whenever my fathers name is mentioned unchecked tears stream down my face. Some people say its better to have lost your dad then a absent one, but thats something i never wana knw. Right now im just trying to develop a new coping mechanism and i have no doubt that il return to my emotionally strong self soon..
But this strong face we all put on.. behind it lies alot.. tears of a weak girl.. the pain of a hurt girl...
with never having a male figure in my life.. a dad, brother, uncles or even granparents around.. i have no idea what its like growing up under a protected hand.. every male i meet now i try look for a father a brother someone who can tell me to just shutup and sit down.. someone who will have it all under control.. someone who will do a better job then me at being the man of the house. but for some reason it al feels useless.. maturity just doesnt seem to hit the male species.. dont know if i shuld start complaining there LOL.. or els il be here forever...
anyways i dont wana get to emo on my first post.. so thats a lil insight to my lifee.. trust me itz not all that dark.. hehe i shall be geting to the rest sometime soonn..
til then take care
x
keep watching guys! once a wk i shall be updating my diary entries a insight on my feelings thoughts and events for the week! =)
here it goes..
despite such a dramatic and sad beginning, my life has been a positve one so far. i credit my mother for that. She wrapped me in a blanket of love and endeavoured to make my life as 'normal' as possible, one that wasnt clouded with sadness even though she went through some really tough times. As happy as ive been, the loss of a parent in your life can be so virceral at times. Il see a father reach out with a protective hand for his daughter and it would feel like someone stabbed a knife in my side. when a friend tells me her dad helped her file her taxes, out of nowhere comes a flash of envy or jealousy.
Over the years, I have learnt how to push the feelings down swiftly,but, like everything you try and run away from they always catchup with you. Recently all emotions associated withh= this have come back to surface. Im not sure if i can attribute this to a rough time ive had the past 12 months or that fact that what cant kill you can only make you stronger, But whenever my fathers name is mentioned unchecked tears stream down my face. Some people say its better to have lost your dad then a absent one, but thats something i never wana knw. Right now im just trying to develop a new coping mechanism and i have no doubt that il return to my emotionally strong self soon..
But this strong face we all put on.. behind it lies alot.. tears of a weak girl.. the pain of a hurt girl...
with never having a male figure in my life.. a dad, brother, uncles or even granparents around.. i have no idea what its like growing up under a protected hand.. every male i meet now i try look for a father a brother someone who can tell me to just shutup and sit down.. someone who will have it all under control.. someone who will do a better job then me at being the man of the house. but for some reason it al feels useless.. maturity just doesnt seem to hit the male species.. dont know if i shuld start complaining there LOL.. or els il be here forever...
anyways i dont wana get to emo on my first post.. so thats a lil insight to my lifee.. trust me itz not all that dark.. hehe i shall be geting to the rest sometime soonn..
til then take care
x
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